Today I want to have a chat about one of the cards featured in the 'Self-Care' card deck. The card states 'Start saying no to people more often, instead of people pleasing'.
I'm guilty of 'People Pleasing' in my past, and it is something I'm still working on to this day. It can be such a difficult thing to overcome - to start standing up for yourself, your boundaries, and your values. Especially if you're saying 'no', and setting boundaries with friends, family, or even work colleagues.
But just remember, every single time you say no, or stand up for yourself... it becomes easier the next time. It can be so empowering to truly stand up for yourself.
When setting boundaries with others, it is important to remember that the way they react to your boundaries is a reflection of themselves. Those who don't have any boundaries with others, tend to really struggle when someone sets a boundary with them. It can be a rocky start, but it does get easier once you start doing it. If others respect you, then they should accept and respect your boundaries.For me, self-care isn't just about physical things. Thats why the self-care card deck is a mix of physical things you can do for your body - such as, brushing your hair, moisturising your body, or going for a walk. As well as a mix non-physical things... like reaching out to an old friend you haven't connected with for a while, saying no to people (setting boundaries), cutting out toxic people from your life.
Prioritising yourself, making genuine connections with those that you love, setting boundaries, taking care of your body. These are all things that I look at, and see as self-care.
I hope you enjoyed my little ramble, and thoughts from today about self-care. Tap the image below to find out more about my self-care card deck.
All my love + gratitude, Eb x